Relationships

Following you will find two self screening tests about relationships, one on Codependency and another one on Relationship Patterns.

Am I codependent?

  1. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?
  2. Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?
  3. Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol or drug problem?
  4. Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?
  5. Are the opinions of others more important than your own?
  6. Do you have difficulty adjusting to changes at work or home?
  7. Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?
  8. Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?
  9. Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?
  10. Have you ever felt inadequate?
  11. Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?
  12. Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?
  13. Do you feel humiliation when your child or spouse makes a mistake?
  14. Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?
  15. Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done?
  16. Do you have difficulty talking to people in authority such as the police or your boss?
  17. Are you confused about who you are or where you are going with your life?
  18. Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?
  19. Do you have trouble asking for help?
  20. Do you have so many things going at once that you can’t do justice to any of them?

If you answered “yes” to 3 or more of these statements, you may exercise codependent patterns in your relationships.  This is a dysfunctional pattern and brings about great deal of distress to your life and creates destructive, unhappy and unbalanced relationships

The Relationship Quiz

  1. You feel hopeless about relationships, you think “I never get it right”
  2. You are in a relationship, however, you still feel lonely
  3. You argue with your partner about most topics
  4. You are not satisfied with your sexual life
  5. There is mistrust and jealousy in the relationship
  6. You and your partner do everything together, there is barely time left for your friends, family or hobbies, and personal needs.
  7. You find yourself sneaking to read your partner’s phone, emails or correspondence.
  8. Your partner is frequently criticizing you or putting you down.
  9. Your partner checks your phone, correspondence and interferes with your privacy
  10. You feel that your partner is trying to change you
  11. Your partner criticizes your friends and your relatives
  12. Your partner doesn’t get along with your kids
  13. You feel jealous of your partner’s kids, friends and/or relatives
  14. You feel unattractive
  15. You feel like walking on eggshells around your partner
  16. You are afraid of voicing your feelings/thoughts for fear of your partner’s reaction
  17. You tolerate behaviors you are unhappy about in order to avoid conflicts
  18. You feel your relationship is going to end any time soon and you are so terrified of that moment
  19. You want to get out but don’t find the strength to do so
  20. You feel you carry most of the responsibility in the relationship; finances, house chores, decisions, etc.

If you answered “yes” to 2 or more of these questions/statements, you are involved in a relationship that presents unhealthy patterns.  You may want to seek professional assistance to improve or save your relationship.  These patterns tend to be repeated in future relationships.