Following you will find two self screening tests about relationships, one on Codependency and another one on Relationship Patterns.
Am I codependent?
- Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?
- Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?
- Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol or drug problem?
- Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?
- Are the opinions of others more important than your own?
- Do you have difficulty adjusting to changes at work or home?
- Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?
- Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?
- Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?
- Have you ever felt inadequate?
- Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?
- Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?
- Do you feel humiliation when your child or spouse makes a mistake?
- Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?
- Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done?
- Do you have difficulty talking to people in authority such as the police or your boss?
- Are you confused about who you are or where you are going with your life?
- Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?
- Do you have trouble asking for help?
- Do you have so many things going at once that you can’t do justice to any of them?
If you answered “yes” to 3 or more of these statements, you may exercise codependent patterns in your relationships. This is a dysfunctional pattern and brings about great deal of distress to your life and creates destructive, unhappy and unbalanced relationships
The Relationship Quiz
- You feel hopeless about relationships, you think “I never get it right”
- You are in a relationship, however, you still feel lonely
- You argue with your partner about most topics
- You are not satisfied with your sexual life
- There is mistrust and jealousy in the relationship
- You and your partner do everything together, there is barely time left for your friends, family or hobbies, and personal needs.
- You find yourself sneaking to read your partner’s phone, emails or correspondence.
- Your partner is frequently criticizing you or putting you down.
- Your partner checks your phone, correspondence and interferes with your privacy
- You feel that your partner is trying to change you
- Your partner criticizes your friends and your relatives
- Your partner doesn’t get along with your kids
- You feel jealous of your partner’s kids, friends and/or relatives
- You feel unattractive
- You feel like walking on eggshells around your partner
- You are afraid of voicing your feelings/thoughts for fear of your partner’s reaction
- You tolerate behaviors you are unhappy about in order to avoid conflicts
- You feel your relationship is going to end any time soon and you are so terrified of that moment
- You want to get out but don’t find the strength to do so
- You feel you carry most of the responsibility in the relationship; finances, house chores, decisions, etc.
If you answered “yes” to 2 or more of these questions/statements, you are involved in a relationship that presents unhealthy patterns. You may want to seek professional assistance to improve or save your relationship. These patterns tend to be repeated in future relationships.